Self Reflection

Recently I’ve been doing a lot of personal reflection and soul searching which is a very unfamiliar place for me as I always live my life going forward and not wondering what if. I must say while I have been doing some self discovery I’m not dwelling in the past per say but rather trying to learn and grow from my experiences. I’ve always been a big believer in you grow from what you’ve been through and it defines who you are today. I know now that while I may have been saying that the reality is that I haven’t been living that, and if I was I was blind at times.

There’s a few key points that I’d like to address at least from my own personal encounters.

1. Having someone that believes in you.

This is huge as I’ve found out over the years, I never truly understood the power of this at the time but I know now just how crucial it is. There was a past relationship that has really formed me into the man I am today they harvested my self pride and confidence and I was forever changed. I think back and I long for that support, but due to my strength and power I’ve managed to survive without it. Though had I had that same support system today, there’s no telling where and who I’d be.

2. Having a strong independent person

Ok this is as equally as huge and though I believe for the most part this has been a hindrance I believe it has also been a strengthening exercise. While I’d love to say I enjoy helping others there’s a difference between helping and doing the majority of things. At some point or another you become an enabler rather than the strong one.

3. Doing things for you

Ok while this one is a bit ambiguous it’s more about feeling good about yourself. I think it’s important to do things for yourself that make you confident and feel good about yourself. For instance I used to run and love doing it, I have not done this nearly as much as I’d like or should. By first improving yourself and feeling good about the inner you the rest will come along.

Lastly and by far the most important….

4. Start living don’t go on existing

This is what I believe the problem with most of the world is experiencing today. While we get caught up in the day to day grind we don’t ever challenge ourselves to do something to make us feel alive. We rather stay in the trenches and have the blinders on about the bills and stress that life and work throws at us. Even if you do one small thing a day to make you feel alive if you can remember what that’s like then you have begun your journey.

On a side note I believe in the power of positive reinforcement. We all have the ability to let things bring us down or let them have minimal impact upon us. I thoroughly believe that negativity and negative people are like a poison. If you let it consume you it will, and it will spread to whomever will allow it to.

There’s and old Indian saying about the wolves that live inside of us which describes this perfectly.

We each have two wolves living inside of us one is hate and the other is happiness.

How do you know what one you will become?

This is easy whichever one you feed….